High performers consistently resolve the tension and disappointment of failing much differently than those they are outperforming.
What is the difference? They are fueled by the possibility of “better” instead of being defeated by it.
“When these high performers are confronted with failure, they are inspired to keep trying. They don’t judge themselves for missing the mark. Their desire and drive are not minimized or crushed by failing.” – Dr. Henry Cloud
That is the difference in their performance. Let’s try to leverage failure and use it as a means of improving ourselves rather than allowing failure to chip away at our identities.
Just because you fail does not make you a failure.
Failing says, “I screwed up” when failure says, “I am a screw-up.” Be aware of shameful thoughts that might try to creep into your mind when you fail, and don’t entertain them at all because they will only bring you down and eventually paralyze you.
