When you feel blamed by others, what do you do?
Part of our built-in self-defense mechanism is to point the blame right back. Blaming others only provokes their blaming and defensiveness.
By blaming others, we justify our view of them and their bad behavior. When they return the blame, it justifies our bad behavior to them. And around and around it goes.
When we blame others we only undercut and end up undermining our authority and status. By blaming others we invite mutual mistreatment and attain mutual justification.
Want to get off the blaming merry-go- round?
It starts with you.
It starts the moment you are willing to admit you might be wrong and have contributions to a problem. It starts with ending your
