I’m so &!#% Mad! 😡

“Speak when you are angry, and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” – Ambrose Bierce

“Be angry and do not sin…” Ephesians 4:26

It’s true.

Anger makes us sharp, reactive, and ready to fire off the perfect comeback.

 And in the moment, it feels powerful. But later?

 That power fades, and all you’re left with is the damage you caused. While anger can sometimes fuel passionate or compelling speech, it also clouds judgment and often leads to words that are hurtful, damaging and regretted later.

Losing control in a conversation doesn’t just hurt your argument—it hurts your relationships, your credibility, and your ability to influence and LEAD.

 You can’t take back words once they’re spoken. And too often, what feels like a justified reaction turns into a long-term mistake.

That doesn’t mean you suppress how you feel. Feel everything…. in a healthy and constructive way. Anger, frustration, disappointment—

 They’re all real and valid.

 But feeling something and acting on it are two different things.

 The people who truly win—whether in leadership, business, or life—are the ones who control their reactions.

 They don’t let a moment of emotion derail the relationship.

Next time anger rises, pause. 

Slow down. Step back.

Ask yourself: Will this reaction get me closer to what I actually want?

If the answer is no, then Take a Time Out. Cool down.

Call a time out, calmly step away for an hour and choose a response that moves you forward instead of one that leaves you cleaning up a mess. Reengage the conversation cool, calm and collected with the goal to listen, understand and strengthen the relationship.